The problem with perfectionism

Perfectionists aren’t so perfect after all! It’s been over 7 years now that I’ve been coaching and time and time again I have clients with, let’s be kind, and call them ‘perfectionist tendencies’. What I’ve noticed is that these clients are high achievers; they set big goals for themselves and hold themselves to the highest…

Mindfulness at the Dentist

Argh, another trip to the dentist! Sitting in the chair. I thought, “This is a great opportunity to practice mindfulness”. So as the dentist was drilling away I was noticing my breathing and my body. Mindfulness really is about being aware of the present moment.  As the dentist was digging into my mouth I wanted…

Sometimes surviving is enough!

There are times in your life where you will be able to grow, challenge yourself and consciously improve your life and times to consolidate and just survive as best you can. It’s interesting though so many people get wrapped up in thinking that they should be growing and they should be spending time to make…

Wake up to kindness!

I was recently email by a friend a link to ‘wake up project’ and as I began reading through their site I was astounded at the simplicity of the concept! The Wake Up Project is a community of people celebrating kindness and wisdom in modern life. They are inspiring random acts of kindness through their…

The power of Gratitude

One of the things that I believe is both one of the keys to true happiness and completly underated and underused in our society is gratitude! Image that each day you woke and asked the simple question of ‘what’s great about my life?’ This question alone would start to help you focus on the positves all around you.…

Dealing with negative thoughts

I’ve been reading a lot about ACT lately, Acceptance and committment Therapy. I just wanted to share some nuggets of wisdom from Russ Harris. He talks about what to do with unhelpful thoughts and lists a bunch of questions that can support you in making postive decisions about where to focus your attention and how…

Success or Significance; You decide!

I was at an event a few weeks ago and heard a speaker talk on the difference between success and significance. It made such sense that I’d like to share it with you. He described success as being a personal achievement. You have reached your goals, achieved a certain level of wealth, status, lifestyle, material…

You are good enough

What is ACT?

Acceptance and commitment Therapy is a new approach to assisting clients to move forward. It’s based in mindfulness and focuses on taking values based action to move forward.  The aim of ACT is to create a rich, full and meaningful life while accepting the pain that inevitably goes with it. There are 6 core aspects…

It’s OK to judge

Sometimes I judge people wearing high heals (or stupid looking spikes), and sometimes I judge people with bare feet. Sometimes I judge people who give their kids junk food and sometimes I judge people who refuse thier kids any sweets. I was thinking this morning on how and when we judge and the way it’s…