It’s interesting how business works, it seems clients always come in clusters, groups with similar challenges and issues. With each group of clients I find there is a message for me, something pertinent that I need to learn myself. It’s a little like the universe holds up a mirror for us, as long as we’re prepared to listen.
The last month almost all of my clients have been tremendously hard on themselves and with each client I’ve had a conversation about self comapssion. The ability to recognise the challenges, pain and chaos in your life, accept it as it is and respect yourself for the way you are dealing with it…. or not dealing with it, and being kind to yourself regardless.
Self compassion is looking at a messy kitchen at the end of a busy day and being able to say to yourself, “It’s OK, I’ve done heaps today, I’ve been under lots of pressure, and the fact that I need a rest right now… rather than starting to clean up, just makes me a normal person.” When you give yourself that freedom and space it means there is no room for guilt, no space to beat yourself up and enables you to move forward in the kindest possible way.
I’m sure there is a little room in your life and your day to be kind to yourself, if it sounds like a challenging principle, try think of what your best friend would say, then take their kind words and make them yours. There will always be periods in your life to challenge yourself and push yourself, self compassion is really about recognising the times you need to consolidate and be kind and put that growth and ambition to the side for another day.
Written by Jodie Cooper, Wollongong’s leading life coach.